Goal 6

This is to help them understand about their behaviors, confusion, and their need for help. Teach them about friends, about proper sexuality, and teach them the percentages. (Use these notes to teach from.)
Teach them about “Friends.” “Friends” are people who help you to do good, to do the right thing. “Friends” help you to meet your goals in life. “Friends” are not people who get you to use alcohol or drugs, or get you to steal, be wild, lie, sneak, be crude, hurt people or things, or get you into trouble with the law.
Sexuality can be a very big problem, 60% get into legal trouble over sexual issues. (Impulsiveness – lack of self control) (At the age of 13 they are often developmentally only 5). Teach them sex is for married couples only and in order to get married they have to be eligible. They must have a job and be able to keep it; they need a place to live, a life plan in place. Tell them sex is a wonderful thing for married couples. Tell them sex may feel good if they are not married but it can cause a lot of confusion and trouble. (Then go forth and take care of their babies that they create either in or out of wedlock.)
Teach them the percentages: 90% have mental health issues, 81% need assisted living, 79% can’t keep a job, 70% are victims of violence, 60% get in trouble with the law over sexual issues, 60% have disrupted school experiences, and 60% are either dead or in prison by the age of 30. You do not teach them these percentages to discourage them, but to teach them how important it is that they avoid these problems and how important it is for them to let you or someone help them.
They often need someone to help make decisions for them, to keep them on task, and to help them to have self-control. That person is sometimes referred to as an “External Brain.” We all have them; a boss, husband or wife, God, policeman, or friends.
We also try to teach them to be their own external brain by using lists, structure, or “Home Base.”

“Home Base” is a table or place where the child must be at whenever they are not doing something else. At the table they can ask permission to do something else, talk in low voices, play games, read, do crafts, or do school assignments. The purpose of this is to teach them to “stop and think” about what they want to do, to be calm, and to get focused.